“If you want crappy things to stop happening to you, then stop accepting crap and demand something more.” – Grey’s Anatomy
Channel the happiness you had when you were a kid, when life was only hard when your sibling took your favorite toy or your parents wouldn’t let you have candy. Channel the happiness you felt when you were a kid, when you thought the world was a fun and perfect place.
Being happy for some people seems impossible, myself included. I’ve struggled with staying happy my whole life. I’m still on the struggle bus with learning to be happy and realizing that I deserve to be. You deserve the bliss you felt as a child, you should have those moments when you’re that happy. So far these are some of the things that have helped me remain happy:
This isn’t easy. I’m wildly aware of this. But every little bit helps. Start small. Things like going to the gym, eating healthy and allowing yourself to indulge in junk food every now and then, and accepting yourself for who you are, really does help. I used to have the goal to be skinny like I was my freshman year of college, but I realized that I don’t need to be 110 pounds to be happy. I started working out and learned to love myself for who I am.
You are beautiful, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Instead of picking yourself apart for all the things you don’t like, realize the things you do like about yourself. If you need to change something to be happy, then do it. But once you learn to love yourself, it will be so much easier to be happy.
ELIMINATE THE NEGATIVITY
This can include the negative thoughts you struggle with or people in your life. Anything negative, try your hardest to cut it out. Once you do, it will be a huge weight lifted off of your shoulders.
Sometimes we think we’ll miss a person, but most of theme we just miss the routine, the predictability of it all. Don’t let a person have a place in your life if all they do is make you feel bad about yourself.
Negativity is everywhere. You can’t cut it out everywhere, but you can try to get rid of as much as you can. Try to think more positive. Try to surround yourself with positive people. My Nana always says, “Think positive, and positive will come.”
THINK THINGS THROUGH
We all make rash decisions. The outcomes of these decisions aren’t always bad, sometimes the outcome is good. However, not thinking things through can really mess with your head. When you suffer from anxiety, you sometimes will come to conclusions in your head, you’ll make up scenarios because you have a bad feeling about something, even though that thing isn’t really happening.
Allow yourself to consider things from all angles. Think about what’s at hand, the possibilities, and the reality of a situation. Thinking things through can really help you. Learn to trust yourself and learn to trust others. It’s easier said than done, I’m aware, but we all have to start from somewhere. So start with trying.
REALIZING WHAT WE DESERVE
We learn from our mistakes. Don’t let the things you do or go through define who you are. It’s not easy. You will sit there and want to stay with someone because of how you feel, but if they can’t treat you like you deserve to be treated, or give you the commitment that you need, you need to walk away. Believe me when I say that, because it took me a long time to realize it. This doesn’t just apply to relationships; it also applies to friendships.
Have respect for yourself. You know what you want in life and if someone is going to treat you poorly, 98% of the time, it isn’t you that is the problem. I have noticed that I apologize way too much. I say sorry for being me, for caring, for loving, for being nice, I’m always saying sorry because I feel like I’m the issue. Stop apologizing for things you shouldn’t be sorry for.
You deserve the world, don’t settle for someone who won’t give it to you. Sweet girl, you deserve to be treated like a queen. For guys who are reading this, you deserve someone who will treat you like a king per say, someone who would do anything for you. We all deserve someone who will accept us for who we are, someone who will do anything for you, someone who does things for you out of the kindness of their own hearts, just because. Stop letting people take advantage of you, you are worth so much more than that. You deserve the world and don’t let anyone tell you or make you feel like you don’t.
Obviously this isn’t all that it takes to be happy. Happiness involves a lot, but I think that these 4 things can really improve your overall happiness. I think you’ll start feeling a lot better about yourself and your life when you realize that you are perfect the way you are and that you can do or be anything you want, you deserve the best in life. You deserve to have moments when you feel giddy and happy like you were when you were a child. Don’t ever forget that.