There is something about first impressions that results in everyone making up their mind on someone and it literally needs to stop. We can have first impressions but we should not let that be a deciding factor in how we view them.
Sometimes when you first meet a person, things are not what you expect. Maybe they are super excited and happy and you’re taken aback by that, or maybe they say things that you take as negative/weird/strange/etc. For someone with anxiety, I can tell you the person I am when I first meet someone, is literally not who I am on a daily basis. I’m usually a nervous wreck when I meet someone, especially guys. This results in me saying stupid s**t or being totally sarcastic and not realizing that they probably don’t know how to pick up on my sarcasm. When I’m on interviews, however, I’m totally myself. It all depends on who I am meeting.
When someone decides they don’t like you off of a first impression, it’s almost like judging a book by its cover. Give them more time, get to know them, give them a chance before you decide you absolutely can’t stand them! Also, if you decide you love the person right away, also give that time, because once a persons nerves subside or the greeting is out of the way, you’ll see who they are.
If I went off of my first impression on my best friend, we probably wouldn’t be friends right now. I thought she was a super quiet, reserved, goody goody (love you Emily). But she wasn’t! I realized I was wrong! We went in blind as roommates and that’s how I felt when I met her. I left that night to go and see a douche of a guy, and I came back in tears and she came out of her room to see if I was okay and that’s when I realized I was wrong about her, I knew she would become my best friend.
Nothing is worse than misjudging someone. That person could be the greatest person ever but you were too busy noticing the negatives to even take the time to see the positives. What happened to giving people a chance? Sitting down, making sure you are both comfortable and not a nervous wreck? Taking the awkward out of a situation? Once the nerves subside for me, I try my hardest to be myself and make sure that I’m not being fake. But let me tell you, I can pick up on it when a person decides they don’t like me right away, and it is not a good feeling. If you make your view obvious a couple minutes after you’ve met me, I can tell, and it causes me to not be myself because I become uncomfortable and think “Well they didn’t like me when I was nervous and babbling like an idiot, so they probably won’t like me at all.” IT SUCKS.
Give people a decent chance. Give them a re-do if it didn’t go right. You never know, the second time you meet the person might make a big difference (I almost said HUGE but didn’t want to sound like Donald Trump). Sometimes I feel like I don’t really know how I feel about a person until I meet them a second time, mostly because the nerves are gone, I already know who they are, it’s not an awkward introduction of not knowing whether to shake hands or hug or smile like a freak.
First impressions, don’t let that be the one thing that makes you say NO about a person. Give yourselves another chance to hangout and see if that first impression was right or if it was completely wrong. Trust me on this my friends.